Unless you learn how to overcome your fears that dream of yours will remain simply a dream. Today, I’m going to show you exactly how to overcome those fears.
KEY POINTS
Being Scared To Start Your Dream is a Good Thing – It means that you’re pushing yourself in the right direction. Just don’t let it hold you back!
Don’t be Afraid To Fail – If you go through life expecting to not have any failures, you wont get anywhere. Embrace the failures as part of your journey.
Increase Your Knowledge – Too often people starting their dreams fear that they don’t know enough. Get out there and learn!
Take Risks! – Nothing is risk free, however ask yourself what is the best way I can insulate myself against these risks.
You Are Good Enough! – You absolutely have what it takes to go after your dream, but it starts in your mind and you need to believe it.
Write a New Story – Take 10 minutes and write down who is the person that could be achieving these dreams, how does this person act and behave and set goals to become that person.
TRANSCRIPT
Being scared to start your dream is a good thing. It means that you’re pushing yourself in the right direction, but unless you learn how to overcome those fears that dream of yours will remain simply a dream. Today, I’m going to show you exactly how to overcome those fears, so that you can start that dream of yours, and achieve your goals.
Hi. My name is Eric Partaker, and I’ve been recognized as an award-winning entrepreneur, as well as the CEO of the year. I’m also the author of two best-selling books including The Three Alarms, and I totally get what it feels like to be scared to start a dream. I’ve started several businesses throughout my career, and it wasn’t like I just did it willy nilly and didn’t care about anything, I was oblivious to fear. No, I definitely had those fears, and it took a while to overcome them, and I just want you to just be rest assured that the fears that you’re experiencing with regard to starting your dream you can overcome them. You just need to identify what they are and practice some simple techniques which we’re going to get into now to help you overcome your fears and start your dream.
The number one fear that holds people back from starting their dream is that they’re afraid to fail, and that’s just not how the world works first of all, because if you go through life not expecting to have any kind of failures you’ll never get anywhere. It’s like if you were a kid and if you were going to join a sports team but only if the coach promised you that there’s no chance that you’re going to lose a game, we’re going to win every single game all the way up through the championship, and it’s going to be like that every single season. That’s just not how the world works.
So, you have to just embrace failure as, yes, failure will happen as part of this journey, as part of starting this dream. It doesn’t necessarily mean that the whole thing is going to fail, but that you should just be recognizing that along that journey there will be wins and losses, and it’s part of the journey. It’s more important that you’re able to bounce back up quickly when things don’t go your way rather than avoiding the knockdowns entirely.
The number two fear that gets in the way of people starting their dreams is they fear that they don’t know enough, that they don’t have enough knowledge. What do we do with this fear? We increase our knowledge. We identify what are the skills that we need to be learning. What’s the knowledge that we need to be acquiring? How do we acquire that? Is it through a person? Is it through a course? Is it through a book? And then, where are we building that within our schedules?
We need to actually have schedules within our calendar, the time that is there for our expertise building, for our knowledge acquisition, for our learning. You need to schedule your learning. The way to deal with that fear of not knowing enough is to tackle it by determining what is it that you need to know, and then making that appear, scheduling that within your calendar so that learning actually happens.
The number three reason that often holds people back from starting their dream is they’re just afraid of taking risks. They’re afraid what if I lose money, or what if people laugh at me, or they don’t think as highly of me anymore. Look, with starting anything there’s always going to be a degree of risk, but with risk comes reward. That’s just how it works, so you can’t expect anything to be risk free.
And as a matter of fact, if anybody ever comes to you and says, “Look, I got this guaranteed, you can’t lose, risk-free idea,” that’s right there a red flag that something is not right with whatever that they’re proposing. When it comes to starting a dream, and if you’re scared about the risk involved then you need to just step back and ask yourself what are the risks. What are each of them? List them out, and ask yourself what’s the best way that I could insulate myself against each of those risks. How could I lower the probability of that risk happening?
If the risk involves that you need additional financing or you might run out of cash what’s the best way to mitigate that risk? Could you be spending less money? Could you be accelerating revenue or sales somehow from the business or whatever it is that you’re trying to build?
Another common reason that people are too scared to start their dreams is because they fear that they’re not good enough. Now, this could relate to the previous point that I made about fearing that you don’t have the knowledge or expertise required, but we already talked about what you should be doing there. Identify what it is that you need to be learning, the skills you need to acquire, and make sure it’s scheduled into your calendar.
But this could be simply that you just feel that maybe you don’t deserve to start the dream, that you don’t feel that you’re capable of doing it, like you’re just not there maybe intellectually, or bravery-wise, or courage-wise, but we’re all born in the same way, a clean slate, and so any conditioning that you’ve built up that makes you who you are today can also be undone. You can start to think in new ways. You can start to build a new you. You absolutely have what it takes to go after and start your dreams, but it starts here in the mind and you need to believe it.
And so, what I would encourage you to do to help overcome this fear is just starting a new story on a daily basis. Just take 10 minutes and write out who is the person that could be achieving these dreams. How does that person act and behave? How does that person show up and look in the world? And just use that as a journaling exercise to write out on a daily basis that new version of you who is capable of achieving these things, who is capable of starting this dream?
And I’d love to hear from you, so don’t forget to leave a comment, and a rating as well. And if you’d like to get a copy of my new book The Three Alarms please head over to my website at EricPartaker.com. That’s E-R-I-C, EricPartaker.com where you can pick up a free digital copy of my new best-selling book The 3 Alarms.
